Grief
“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” ~Kahlil Gibran
Grief is an intense personal reaction to loss. While grief often accompanies death, there are other sources that cause one to grieve. For example moving or other significant life changes may trigger feelings of loss and emptiness.
Why Grieve?
It is important for individuals to give themselves permission to feel and express emotions so that they are able to heal and move on.
Emotions
Grief often involves a wide range of emotions. Individuals who experience a significant loss may initially experience shock or denial, feel as if they are “numb”. Other emotions include anger, anxiety, emptiness, and despair. Some experience overwhelming fear, forgetfulness, indecisiveness, and guilt.
Remembering
Although many tend to avoid talking about loss, it frequently helps people to talk about their memories. There are many ways to remember and honor those who have passed away. For example, some prefer to light a candle in memory, others may plant a tree, listen to a favorite song, or look through old pictures and celebrate the life of the loved one with others.
Coping
It is normal to experience intense emotions after a loss. However, some may become “stuck” in the grieving process, and others may shove their feelings aside, and not grieve at all. Regardless of how one deals with their loss, it is difficult to cope without the help of others. Individuals who have friends, family, and others who listen, understand, and support them are better able to deal with difficulties. Therapists are trained to listen and help people cope with their problems, and counseling often benefits individuals who need additional support.
Resources
When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. Kushner
How Can It Be All Right When Everything Is All Wrong by Lewis B. Smedes